Kicking the Haters to the curb-dealing with Emotional Clutter

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There are many types of clutter.

Material clutter, physical clutter, mental clutter and emotional clutter.

In the last few months, I have been hard at work releasing myself and our house from material clutter. While this has been quite a battle to be fought, I have been making excellent headway and the differences in our space is amazing.

Less stuff seriously equals more time.

I still feel cluttered though.

I have begun to look into ways that my life is cluttered in other ways.

Emotional clutter is a big one.

Emotional clutter whats that you ask?

Emotional clutter can be  so  many things.

  • Negative thoughts and feelings that we associate with other people
  • Dwelling on the should of, would of, could ofs
  • Certain people in your life who constantly bring you drama or negative feelings
  • Plaguing thoughts of inadequacy and self-doubt

These are only some of the aspects of Emotional clutter that can take over your life.

Looking at this list I know exactly where so much of my emotional clutter stems from. I have a problem with allowing other people in my life to rock my peace and bring me constant drama and negative feelings.

It’s not their fault though, its mine.

Yup, I am the one who is allowing them to infiltrate my peace. I am the one who allows it to happen therefore, I am the only one who can stop it.

So, this week, I am making it a goal of mine to weed out the haters in my life.

Out they go.

Just like the bags and bags or physical clutter I have bagged up and donated these last few months. I am going to take these people and cross them off my list.

I know this is not easy and I already feel a bit of a void from removing them.

There have been tears.

BUT, I would rather have an empty space that I can fill with happiness and contentment than one that is constantly filled with hate and drama.

Do you have people or Emotional clutter like this in your life?

Do you feel strong enough to release yourself from them?

 

 

Sock Happy

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There has been a ton of decluttering going on here.

A ton.

So much that the kids are afraid they are next.

It really is quite liberating being rid of so much that we weren’t using. Its not that we ever had so much to begin with. I really don’t think that we are much different from  the average American family. We would keep things that we might use “someday” or save clothes for the next child or books that we might read in the next five years.

I think it really started to bother me when are family started to grow and so did the laundry.

I have seven children.

Each person in our family wearing socks everyday adds up to 63 pairs in a week.

126 socks!

Really it is a lot to keep up with. Even harder when instead of having socks for just the week, you have socks for the month.  And, lets not forget about socks that are mismatched!

We truly had a sock hoard going on here.

No kidding.

Yet, it would not be surprising to see one of my children without socks in January, or perhaps they would have mismatched socks, or wear only one sock at a time.

No joke.

The problem wasn’t that I couldn’t do laundry or that I was lazy. It wasn’t even that my kids didn’t know where the socks were.

We had too much.

Too much.

They just couldn’t choose from so much.

Kids do best with limited choices when they are young. Let them be creative, but limit their choices. When presented with too many choices, a child is confused and would rather not make a choice at all.

To end the sock fiasco in our house, I have instituted the following rules:

1. Each person in the house is only allowed 7 pairs of socks at a time. 

2. From June through September, each child is only to have 2 pairs of socks.

3. All mismatched socks have been thrown away.

Sound a little crazy? Good. Sometimes you need a little craziness to experience real change.

The benefits of my plan will be many. My children will only have enough socks for one week. Because they will only have enough socks for one week, they will hopefully take care of them. If they don’t they will be left without any socks in January until they buy their own.

I feel an important part of being a parent is teaching my children the skills they will need as an adult. One of these is learning to take care of your possessions.

I have limited the amount of socks they have during the summertime, because during the summer, we rarely wear sneakers or boots. We tend to live in flip flops and sandals. They only use socks when they visit the horse farm or perhaps go camping. Otherwise, socks end up getting thrown on the floor and swept back into the laundry. This means that I end up washing unworn socks all summer.

Not fun.

Sound a little crazy? It is, but I know it will work.

I am so excited see minimalism at work in our home!