Kicking the Haters to the curb-dealing with Emotional Clutter

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There are many types of clutter.

Material clutter, physical clutter, mental clutter and emotional clutter.

In the last few months, I have been hard at work releasing myself and our house from material clutter. While this has been quite a battle to be fought, I have been making excellent headway and the differences in our space is amazing.

Less stuff seriously equals more time.

I still feel cluttered though.

I have begun to look into ways that my life is cluttered in other ways.

Emotional clutter is a big one.

Emotional clutter whats that you ask?

Emotional clutter can be  so  many things.

  • Negative thoughts and feelings that we associate with other people
  • Dwelling on the should of, would of, could ofs
  • Certain people in your life who constantly bring you drama or negative feelings
  • Plaguing thoughts of inadequacy and self-doubt

These are only some of the aspects of Emotional clutter that can take over your life.

Looking at this list I know exactly where so much of my emotional clutter stems from. I have a problem with allowing other people in my life to rock my peace and bring me constant drama and negative feelings.

It’s not their fault though, its mine.

Yup, I am the one who is allowing them to infiltrate my peace. I am the one who allows it to happen therefore, I am the only one who can stop it.

So, this week, I am making it a goal of mine to weed out the haters in my life.

Out they go.

Just like the bags and bags or physical clutter I have bagged up and donated these last few months. I am going to take these people and cross them off my list.

I know this is not easy and I already feel a bit of a void from removing them.

There have been tears.

BUT, I would rather have an empty space that I can fill with happiness and contentment than one that is constantly filled with hate and drama.

Do you have people or Emotional clutter like this in your life?

Do you feel strong enough to release yourself from them?

 

 

The thrill of the hunt

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I have become the Queen of Decluttering.

Yup.

The Queen.

While, decluttering has always been kind of easy for me, now it is more than easy. It is a way of life.

Ok, I know what you’re thinking. What is this crazy person talking about?

Well, by way of life I mean that, I have gone over the hump. The hump where I feel the need to cling to my possession, because I need them to feel hole or secure. ( are you sure you don’t feel this way?) Realizing that I am me and still pretty cool without my “stuff” is a pretty awesome feeling.

It really is only half the battle though.

There are more hurtles to go over.

I am ready.

The hurtle that I need to face next is probably the most difficult. Decluttering has nothing on this baby.

The next hurtle is getting past “The thrill of the hunt”.

Got me?

The thrill of the hunt.

Scary right?

Do you crave the thrill of the hunt? That rush you get when you get a good deal? Your favorite designer shoes on clearance? Bogo on your favorite makeup? A pair of Birkenstocks in fabulous condition at a yard sale for 25 cents?

The thrill or adrenaline rush that occurs when you find a good deal is the best.

Nothing beats the rush of a good deal.

The best and addicting.

I love the thrill and the bragging rights that come with getting a good deal. I am pretty sure this is why I began to love yard saling so much. Not only was I getting good deals, I was doing so for only a few dollars so on the surface it seemed that all was good right?

Wrong.

This thrill becomes addicting.

Am I the only one?

Have you ever seen a fabulous sweater that was on sale and the sale was so great you bought one in every color? Even though you didn’t need that many sweaters ever?

If you have, then you my friend are like me, addicted to the thrill of the hunt.

Loving this  rush, has led me to amass a great deal of stuff that I really didn’t need, but that gave me bragging rights that I just had to have.

Bragging rights are awesome. They are almost primal to our human existence.

But this isn’t a good thing.

I have been working really,really hard to combat this tendency, but Dude, its hard.

I still use yard saling as a way to purchase items that we need at home,but in order to get out of my rut, I have enlisted the following few rules.

Rules for Controlling the Thrill of the hunt

  1. Limit shopping time I no longer yard sale for hours and hours on Saturday. Setting up time constraints prevents me from buying too much.
  2. Making a list Making a list might sound of cheesy, but I love a good list. I also let one of the kids know that I have one and they just love holding me accountable to it. Nothing like a bunch of littles asking me if I really need that, to squash the good ole bargain rush.
  3. Money Since being laid off we haven’t exactly been rolling in the dough, but I have found that this sometimes makes it even harder to avoid a good deal. The easiest way to do this has been to bring only a limited amount of cash. Limited. I only bring a few dollars with me in my wallet and no bank cards. Those ATMs are everywhere! That way when the money is gone, its gone and I have no guilt.

These three rules have really helped with my Hunt obsession.

If you have the same trouble, I challenge you to give one or all of them a try.

Your house and your wallet will thank you for it.